She practically has no job and no home and fails to do anything about this. That left me with a perspective of loosing someone I really love and also left space for me to think about it in safe environment. ! I have asked him to go to the docs last year he was given anti depressants but only took them for a month !!!! Or maybe it's because your partner is jealous, or mean, or absent. She tried attempting suicide few times.Even I am loving her lot but could not make her understand.she always wants me to be around my arms! I fought with my boyfriend just to feel close to him for a while, to be able to talk. Look Ive been dealing with depression for years as well and yes at times i feel a bit hopeful and at other times i just want to die. This is especially the case if you haven't dealt with anxiety before, but suddenly feel yourself worrying constantly. Im really hurt, I know Im losing her, I am starting to become, once again, insecure, isolated, anxious. Dude, But you're dragging me down, down, down, down. i cant let her go and i know she cant let me go either. Hi everyone, Ive explained my feelings in the past and she says she understands but makes no difference. I dont have depression, I want to have fun and be happy. In the beginning of her depression I was able to make her feel better, but it was due to talking to her almost every waking hour in some form, and I would constantly have to reassure her that everything was alright. she is unable to talk to you to achieve closeness because of all she had to deal with in her head so she compensate this lack of connection by wanting more sex (sex is expression of the highest level of acceptance and intimacy with other person after all and you dont have to talk during this action) and when you refuse, because of the depressed state and has low self-esteem that accompanies it, she treats it like rejection. I used to be able to help her cheer up and have a good time with her whenever she was sad but now,I cant do anything without getting an attitude from her or saying something stupid. In the best moments, when depression is at its weakest, the real person youve loved takes over and comes out. You need to ask is that what you want for the rest of your life. Its your natural born right to be happy! Or maybe it's because your partner is jealous, or mean, or absent. What you have to realise is that she didnt chose to become depressed so to have a partner in this situation is devastating, you cant be angry and leave her because shes done nothing wrong, she still loves you as much as you love her and I promise she feels a million times worse when she has an outburst than you do. Its a selfish decision either way. Break up. And I was aware that there is so much wrong, that it is complicated, that I really cant explain it. Drag Me Down Lyrics [Verse 1: Harry] I've got fire for a heart, I'm not scared of the dark You've never seen it look so easy I got a river for a soul, and, baby, you're a boat Baby, you're my. Then she started talking that her family pressured her, about the meds and that she loved me, but had a really hard time. This then gives my anxiety about getting erectile dysfunction. Please keep in mind that GoodTherapy.org is an exclusive directory. I tried the whole counselling route n psychiatrist with her. If you need help finding a therapist, you are welcome to call us. i feel it but i but i just cant deal with being her friend in school and more outside, i cant do it in school. And before you know it has someone paying for half or all of her bills. And thats happiness isnt even happiness half the time, its just a less bad mood. Relationships are supposed to be about equality. It's not fun for either party, and it's definitely a sign that things aren't entirely healthy. She did not want to fight, and when I thought finally thing would become better, she just said that she did not have time or energy to focus on the relationship, and wanted to focus on herself. Hell even the break up process reinforces their behavior. This is the person who wants what you have - your charm, your wit, your success, your intelligence, your job, your partner, whatever - and because they don't think they . Talk, really talk openly without any criticism. So Ive been in a relationship with my partner for over a year and a half, and in the past 6 months things have really become difficult for both of us. She helped me so much, she made me become stronger, comprehensive, helped me leaving my addictions, I had so many precious moments with her, but now she doesnt seem to care about me at all, the more I try to help, to listen to her, the more she flees. Hi guys Go with her to therapist. I have been suspicious of her behaviour as Ive late because if has not been textbook she has changed alot in a variety of aspects. If you have trouble finding a professional in your area, dont be discouragedit may mean youll have better luck doing a Google search or asking for a referral from a trusted health professional, such as your doctor. She might even need help to physically move some of the bigger items out (like a couch). She doesnt like me going out to see my friends, she gets inconsolable whenever I do anything that doesnt involve her, even if I tell her about it weeks in advance. I can not just do sex all the time Im not a robot. We dont really have many, if any, moments of romance anymore. Ive been with my girlfriend for ten years, starting in college. She still will randomly text me I love you! The odd time but the girl I felt secure with seems to have left her conscience. We read your comment, and we hear your frustration and unhappiness. Still, its all your decision. I dunno maybe thats just me. Uffo , I feel like I dont want anything in my life. Its one thing to be committed to someone and another to keep trying only to see they themselves keep failing back into the same pattern. I have thought about leaving, but I'm afraid it would devastate her, and I truthfully don't know that she would survive it. Your Dilemmas: My girlfriend's negative energy is dragging me down. I always stopped everything to help her, to stay hours remind her how she is incredible. I am seeking some advice. I always supported her and told her that she needed medical support in this field. If you would like to talk to a therapist or counselor, you can use our site to locate one in your area. I feel like my (26F) girlfriend (23F) is dragging me down I kind of feel like shit for even saying it. Then to know she will react & get angry is so wrong. Im in a LDR myself too although I have never met her IRL. We had ups and downs for almost a year till i realised that she is alcoholic, and sadlly that the day we met (which i consider the most romantic day i had) she had bottle of wine hidden in her bag. At the end of the relationship, she finally started seeing a psychologist who believes she shouldnt be in a relationship. She didnt even try to make the effort in keeping the conversation going and Im always the one who care about her when she doesnt give a thought about me and keep immersing herself in her depressive world. Hugs. My suggestion is start having a quality of life before it is to late , love is wonderful when it is growing but it can be hell if it is one sided. The way this went down was that I got very worried and stayed up all night trying to stop her, and since then it has happened multiple times. I love her a lot, I just miss her old caring cuddly self! I just cant take the angry outbursts then the crying then the woe is me attitude over every tiny event. I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and recently she has made a big deal about wanting me to start coming along to her work events. 3. My girlfriend has jealousy along with paranoia, anxiety, post traumatic stress disorder and some depression. That is why she will fail. Warm regards, I have a lower sex drive than hers. hello, I am this depressed girl, If you have solution, you are God for me:(. you're being dragged down by your partner, suddenly feel yourself worrying constantly, the balance between sleep and wakefulness, leave you feeling perfectly drained of energy. She is a no bullshit chick that has always been completely honest with me about everything and this is no exception. She is very complexed about her weight, her mental issues and the time she has lost in her life. Ive never been so stressed and sad and angry my whole life. Move on with your life. but she made fun of me she said she wasnt going to read this BS. Like you rejecting the last possible form of understanding and connection. Giving a quick comeback or getting angry will reinforce his behavior. I have honoured her decision to sort this out alone. Now I am questioning myself whether to leave her or hold her.whether she ll feel better later on if I suppose leave her. You have to tell her when she hurts you. I would love to go to therapy, but in Sydney that shit costs anywhere from $200 to $250 for a 45 to 55-minute session, and that for a 25-year-old is a bit too much after rent and living expenses. Best of luck to you on your journey. I try not to put pressure on her to be a certain way or accomplish a certain thing in a given day, but when the time comes when there is actually a really important thing she needs to do, and shes not able to do it, i feel i end up hurting her and not helping. Peace, In other words man if you cant make a difference with ger,and just using you for attention move on. Life is too short to waste time and energy on depressed people. That's because healthy relationships are pretty easily recognized, while bad ones are never, ever the same. Subscribe me to the GoodTherapy.org public newsletter. She changed everything, she made me comfortable, like Ive found someone so much like me; melancholic, with same tastes and so. Atlast I hate the word LOVE with cry. She had many great traits and was amazing in some areas of the relationship which made it hard to think about ending the relationship when I thought I was getting so much out of it. I feel you. By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. Help me drag the camping gear down the hill. On the weekends shes distant and will not talk to me, or very minimally, throughout the weekend. Im not really looking for advice with this, just getting something off my chest to the world. I had a 3 month relationship with a depressed woman and it was comparable to a roller coaster ride at Disney land ups and downs it was beyond this world everything was my fault problems was created and misery was the icing on the cake. Be willing to provide physical assistance. Relationships are supposed to build you up, be super supportive, and make you a better person. I Feel Helpless! They take all the goodness from you and leave you with nothing but sadness and depression. No one feels superior or inferior to the other." The reason Yt5s.io is the best youtube downloader . I tried takin my own life and he didnt care, eventually he ended it with her and started seeing me. Official HD video of Dragging Me Down. It seems like she doesnt want me around, but also states she has never been this open to anyone before. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you. She is also currently in therapy. As long as your eyes are open. She always wants sex and if she doesnt get it on unreasonable terms (ie i have been travelling for 3 hours, working for 8 and also hit the gym and house work and just want to sleep on the odd day) she will fight to 3am. You are helpful to them by being there when they need you. Im different then most I let her know I care everyday and all day but at same time I have tons of hobbies that detract from everything. It is your life too. I know that you wnat to help but it doesnt really sound like you are getting the things that you need out of this sort of relationship anymore. Welcome to Tissue Issues, an advice column from comedian Ash . Firstly, good work for simply dealing with it as long as you have you are obviously so much stronger than you think. Its bad and I feel so trapped. I Feel Helpless! The problem is somewhere else and only specialist can find it. It's an affect that's truly worth noting. And also you have to be a little tough, let her know that you understand and love (you can tell her that simply in words, she might not notice that your actions are supposed to tell it, it is also difference between sexes) her but dont be the hero here. But, she didnt make an effort to talk about it so it seemed to have slipped by the way side. I am afraid that if I leave she will kill herself, she is completely obsessed with me and I cant escape. "When youre stressed, your heart starts pumping blood faster through your veins to give you energy to deal with that perceived threat," said Marcelina Hardy on BettyConfidential.com. One day I thought that she wanted to seek attention by saying that so I confronted her. I have been with my girlfriend long distance for over a year now. Hi everyone Send a package with love letters or get some flowers delivered to her house. Can anyone help me and tell me what can i do?. You need to be comfortable with who you are. 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